FAQ

What is it like at Sea-Change Living?

Imagine……..

  • Waking refreshed to sounds of the curlews calling across the Menai straits, the smell of the sea and views of the ever changing Snowdonia Mountains.
  • Stepping outside the door, breathing in the fresh air, strolling to the duck pond, listening to the wood peckers, feeding the wild birds, hens and blue pheasant; then ambling through the orchards surrounded by a multitude of trees and wildflowers … and feeling yourself relax.
  • Taking an energising walk through indigenous woodlands, alongside the Menai straits; gaining breathing space to open your mind.
  • Enjoying great homemade food, from foraged and locally sourced ingredients.
  • Rediscovering yourself, your inner resources, your passion and creativity in our unique and conducive learning space.
  • Laughing and supping with new friends around a roaring log fire, reflecting on all the days insights.
  • Hearing the owls call, watching the bats flying from the woods whilst overhead the milky way clearly lights up the sky.
  • Slipping into a comfortable, deep, peaceful and restorative sleep …………..

Don’t just imagine spending time at Sea-Change Living, but come and enjoy the space, peace and tranquillity of this rural secluded haven……….

Who is Sea-Change Living for?

You if you:

  • Dream of time out in a peaceful wildlife haven to relax & re-energise .
  • Enjoy the natural landscape, walking, bird watching or biking.
  • Yearn for time to think and take stock of your life.
  • Need breathing space and inspirational fresh thinking.
  • Wish to optimise your skills and resources to create your future.
  • Want to hire a special space for workshops or courses.

Where is Sea-Change Living?

  • Sea-Change Living is a distinctive and comfortable hideaway nestled in a rural secluded haven alongside the Menai straits in the foothills of Snowdonia.
  • The nearest village is Y Felinheli, which is a 15 minute walk away. Y Felinheli (Port Dinorwic) is a beautiful village/ historic port situated on the shores of the Menai Straits and has a village shop, cafe and a couple of places for evening meals.
  • 15 mins from the base on Snowdon.
  • Within a 15 minute drive of the castellated city of Caernarfon; Telford’s Menai Bridge and Anglesey. Where you can sample the regional specialities including local seafood.

How do I get to Sea-Change Living?

Sea-Change Living is easily accessible by rail (Bangor Train station is only 15 minutes away); bus (running roughly every 20 minutes within a third of a mile of the house); and road (A55, A5 and A470).

Why choose Sea-Change Living?

Kim and Martin first imagined, then planned and have now created this special place where they would have wanted to stay, with the opportunity for people to rediscover their special gift or passion and what’s important to them in life. They believe everyone should have the opportunity to be true to themselves, lead the life they desire, flourish and be happy. They have created a welcoming, charming and homely house guest atmosphere, with the emphasis on peace, tranquillity and low-impact living in tune with nature. Through a background in wellbeing and nutrition the emphasis is on high quality; locally sourced, grown or foraged nutritious fresh and tasty homemade food. Over the years they have acquired training or had the experience of diverse, but holistic learning that has been essential in realising their dream:

  • Personal & Business Coaching (Post Grad. Cert)
  • Neuro-Linguistic Programming ( Master Practitioner)
  • Human Givens / guided imagery/ hypnosis
  • Teaching/ tutoring/ facilitation/ mentoring (Post Grad. Cert)
  • Organisational Coaching and Change Management
  • Business Management & Leadership
  • Nutrition, wellbeing & Public Health (B.Sc/M.Sc)
  • Hospitality & Catering experience and training
  • Environmental health/ food hygiene & safety
  • First Aid for Workplace
  • Environmental Sciences (B.Sc)
  • Permaculture/ horticulture & land based skills (PDC)

Why have coaching? /What are the benefits of Coaching?

‘It is as hard to see one’s self as to look backwards without turning around.’ Henry David Thoreau Change of any sort can be difficult, especially when over 80% of what we do can become habitual. We never do anything until we have imagined doing it first and this can be limited by our belief about what is possible. We often do not have a clear view of what we think or how we may do something until we have explained it out loud. The coach effectively holds up a mirror to their client enabling them to really see and hear themselves and clarify: what’s important, decide on a direction, make a change or recognise what they need to do differently. In the process it can equip them with the following attributes:

  • Increased Confidence
  • Increased emotional intelligence
  • Increased Self –Esteem
  • Increased Assertiveness
  • Improved performance/ effectiveness
  • Increased engagement and motivation
  • Improved communication skills and relationships
  • Greater clarity in setting and achieving goals
  • Increased recognition and optimisation of your strengths, talents, skills and abilities
  • Increased flexibility and mobility
  • Increased personal effectiveness and self efficacy
  • Increased self responsibility and initiative
  • Enables adaption to new challenges and change
  • Increased focus and problem solving skills

What is emotional intelligence?

Sea-Change Coaching helps build Emotional Intelligence (EI), increasingly recognised as the critical group of non-cognitive skills, capabilities and competencies which enable someone to control and manage their emotional responses to events and pressures in life. Daniel Goleman ( 1995) defines EI as: knowing what you are feeling and being able to handle feelings without having them swamp you; being able to motivate yourself to get jobs done, be creative and perform at your peak; and sensing what others are feeling, and handling relationships effectively. EI has been identified as a master aptitude, a capacity that profoundly affects and facilitates other abilities. Golemans’ research suggest that EI is what makes the difference between an effective person and the rest, indeed 90 percent of the difference in profile between a star and average performer was attributed to EI rather than cognitive abilities. In other studies: IQ contributed only 20 percent of the factors that determine life success and EI proved to be twice as important as technical skills and IQ.

  • People with emotional intelligence:
  • Have high self awareness, understanding themselves and others better.
  • Have higher levels of self-esteem and energy
  • Experience less stress and are more resilient
  • Communicate more effectively and so have better relationships
  • Are more effective at developing themselves and growing as individuals
  • Have increased motivation and are more likely to achieve their goals
  • Are more engaged in their life and career
  • Are happier and more confident

What should l look for in a coaching?

“Thinking clearly for yourself is the thing on which everything else depends” Nancy Kline Not all coaches or coaching is the same. Anyone can call themselves a ‘Life coach’ with little or no training. If you are going to invest in yourself and your future make sure you choose a personal coach or coaching that is ethical, effective and ecological:

  • Coaches should be honest, non-judgemental and maintain confidentiality (see ethics).
  • Coaching is all about personal change and is at its best when the methods are holistic and tailored to the specific needs of the individual.
  • Coaching should take place in safe and comfortable surroundings.
  • Coaching should help you to learn about yourself and empower you, so take as few sessions as possible.
  • Coaching should increase your self confidence, self esteem and independence and make you feel more capable after every session.
  • Coaching should help you view your choices and problems in new and empowering ways.
  • Coaching should use a wide range of techniques, appropriate to your needs and require you to do exercises or activities between sessions.
  • Coaching should be forward looking and solutions focussed, so should not dwell on the past or on past feelings and emotions (which can make you feel worse).
  • Coaching should recognise that the client has the answers, is not broken and always try to do their best.
  • Coaching should be challenging, energising, inspiring and fun.

What should I look for in effective Coaches?

  • Coaches should be both well qualified and experienced, with recognisable qualifications and experience stated as well as affiliations to national bodies.
  • Coaches should offer free consultation to discuss best options for you.
  • Coaches should be able to deliver individual tailored programmes using a wide range of tools & techniques appropriate to your needs, not blue-print proforma’s or processes.
  • Coaches should provide appropriate information and signpost ideas as necessary, but should not give advice or direction, but facilitate the client to find their own solutions.
  • Coaches should enable you to deeply relax and guide you in this state to clearer quality thinking.

Why Choose Sea-Change Coaching?

Kim Bernard – Coach Profile Kim passionately believes personal growth, flexibility and change are the key to people attaining creative, engaged, fulfilled and happy lives. Therefore her coaching is dynamic and creative, client centred and forward looking, focussing on strengths and solutions. It is based on the belief that everyone is capable of achieving more and people’s belief about what is possible is their only limitation. She describes her coaching practice as ‘A dynamic thinking partnership’ in which clients learn not only about themselves, but also how they learn and develop best. This approach engenders fresh perspectives, new ways of thinking and approaching situations in order to get better results. She believes Coaching is a powerful way of maximising an individual’s potential and performance. To achieve this it requires commitment and honesty from the client who is responsible for the outcomes; the coach provides support, challenge and navigates the direction of travel. Her approach has been developed by her wide ranging experience and training in the public and voluntary sector spanning 30 years; focussing her work and interests predominately in public health and wellbeing /sustainability, personal development, teaching, facilitating, training, counselling, mentoring and coaching. Qualifications:

  • B.Sc in Food & Nutrition (Bath Univ.); Post Grad. Cert. in Education (Bristol Univ.); M.Sc in Public Health (Kings College, London Univ.) and Post Grad. Cert. in Personal and Organisational Coaching (Chester Univ. – Accredited by the National Council of Psychotherapists & credentialed to Professional Certified Coach by the International Coach Federation).
  • Licensed Neuro-Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner (includes hypnosis) by Richard Bandler who developed NLP (registered with The Society of Neuro- Linguistic Programming and recognised by the Association of Neuro-Linguistic Programming).
  • Trained in and practices Human Givens psychology /approaches. She works to the European mentoring and coaching council code of practice, which prescribes professional principles, conduct and confidentiality, and is a member of the National Council of Psychotherapists.

Experience:

  • Developed innovative capacity building, personal effectiveness and development programmes whilst working for The Welsh Government. She had coached/ mentored informally as a manager for several years, but in 2008 decided to professionalise, formalise and develop her skills by successfully completing a Post Graduate Certificate in Personal and Business (Organisational) Coaching.
  • From 2008 to 2010 she worked full time as a professional coach/coach manager for the Welsh Government developing successful individual, team and departmental change programmes and initiatives to support staff during change and transition. She was commissioned to and undertook a review to create a business case to propose how the Welsh Government develops an efficient and effective Coaching strategy and culture.
  • She has facilitated change, opportunities and solutions for over 80 individuals, groups and organisations. As well as taking part in a programme to provide executive coaching to external wider public sector managers

What are the Human Givens?*

We are all born with a natural inheritance – a partially formed mind that contains innate knowledge patterns. These patterns appear as physical and emotional needs that must be satisfactorily met if our minds are to unfold and develop to their fullest potential. It is such needs and tools together that make up the human givens, nature’s genetic endowment to humanity. It is the way those needs are met, and the way we use the resources that nature has given us, that determine the physical, mental and moral health of an individual. As such, the human givens are the benchmark position, to which we must all refer— in education, mental and physical health and the way we organise and run our lives. When we feel emotionally fulfilled and are operating effectively within society, we are more likely to be mentally healthy and stable. But when too many innate physical and emotional needs are not being met in the environment, or when our resources are used incorrectly, unwittingly or otherwise, we suffer considerable distress. And so do those around us. People whose emotional needs are met in a balanced way do not suffer mental health problems. When psychotherapists (and specialist coaches) and teachers pay attention to this they are at their most effective. There is widespread agreement as to the nature of our emotional needs. The main ones are listed below. Emotional needs include:

  • Security — safe territory and an environment which allows us to develop fully
  • Attention (to give and receive it) — a form of nutrition
  • Sense of autonomy and control — having volition to make responsible choices
  • Emotional intimacy — to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are, “warts ‘n’ all”
  • Feeling part of a wider community
  • Privacy — opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience
  • Sense of status within social groupings
  • Sense of competence and achievement
  • Meaning and purpose — which come from being stretched in what we do and think.

Along with physical and emotional needs nature gave us guidance systems to help us meet them. We call these ‘resources’. The resources nature gave us to help us meet our needs include:

  • The ability to develop complex long term memory, which enables us to add to our innate knowledge and learn
  • The ability to build rapport, empathise and connect with others
  • Imagination, which enables us to focus our attention away from our emotions, use language and problem solve more creatively and objectively
  • Emotions and instincts:
  • A conscious, rational mind that can check out our emotions, question, analyse and plan
  • The ability to ‘know’ — that is, understand the world unconsciously through metaphorical pattern matching
  • An observing self — that part of us that can step back, be more objective and be aware of itself as a unique centre of awareness, apart from intellect, emotion and conditioning
  • A dreaming brain that preserves the integrity of our genetic inheritance every night by metaphorically defusing expectations held in the autonomic arousal system because they were not acted out the previous day.

(*Extracted from ‘Human Givens’ – A new approach to emotional health and clear thinking by Joe Griffin & Ivan Tyrell)

What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming?

‘How can l know what I think until I hear myself speak’ Charles Handy NLP is the influence of language on our mind and subsequent behaviour:

  • Neurology: The mind and how we think
  • Linguistics: use of language and its affect
  • Programming: we can choose our response

NLP studies how we think about our values and beliefs; how we create emotional states and how we construct our internal world from our experience and give it meaning. By using different language, thinking different thoughts and focusing on positive outcomes, we can change how we think, feel and respond to situations. When used effectively NLP can bring about sustainable self-development and change. In simple terms you could see your brain as a ‘Bio – Computer’ and NLP could be described as an ‘owners’ manual for the brain!

Coaching Code of Ethics?

Sea-Change Living / Coaching undertake to:

  • Conduct themselves at all times in accordance with a professional manner.
  • Ensure their workplace and all facilities offered to clients are suitable and appropriate.
  • Present all services in a clear and unambiguous manner, including terms of payment, non- attendance or cancelled appointments.
  • Be honest, non-judgemental and honour and respect clients at all times, ensuring the focus is on the clients agenda
  • Provide services to clients solely in areas of competence for which they carry professional indemnity.
  • Ensure the client understands as fully as possible the nature and process of coaching.
  • Maintain strict confidentiality, unless otherwise authorised or required by law
  • Ensure clients notes and records are kept secure and confidential.
  • Undertake regular CPD / supervision as part of membership of an affiliated body.
  • Refrain from doing anything that harm’s the publics understanding of coaching.

What are SLOW & Low Impact Living?

The SLOW movement advocates a cultural shift towards slowing down life’s pace and a reconnection with local, quality of life and especially good food. To live a Low Impact Life is to live as lightly on the earth as possible and try wherever practicable to reduce, reuse and recycle. At Sea-Change-Living we are endeavouring to do this and live as low an impact life as reasonably practical and do all we can to be sustainable. We have not flown since 2006 and always try and use public transport wherever practicable. In choosing a place to establish our business, a major factor was accessibility by public transport, which we have achieved. Other things we are doing behind the scenes to work towards this aim are:

  • Emphasis on locally sourced and/or organic, and/or fair trade foods – seasonal as possible
  • Prepare home cooked wholesome food, using fresh ingredients (minimal use of processed foods)
  • Make chutneys, jams, jellies and sauces from our own orchard
  • Make our own organic bread and yogurt
  • Currently planning our own organic permaculture vegetable gardens as well as having our own hens and ducks for organic free-range eggs
  • Use of environmentally friendly household cleaning products, laundry products, and personal cleaning products
  • Rainwater is harvested
  • Use of VOC-free natural, clay-based paints
  • Electricity is supplied by ‘Good Energy’. They guarantee 100% renewable sources
  • Large majority of our lights are low-energy light bulbs
  • Our website host is carbon neutral
  • Firewood for our wood burning stoves sourced from local woodsman, and some from our own land, which is hand split ourselves.
  • Household furniture is either inherited, Fair Trade, or made by welsh craftsmen.
  • Bedrooms linens are 100% cotton with traditional feather/down pillows, curtains and wool rugs.
  • Recycle everything that is recyclable, where local facilities exist
  • We do not use plastic bags
  • All vegetable waste is composted and we have a wormery
  • Both our personal and business banking is with the ‘Co-operative Bank’
"You helped me enormously and the difference in me since the coaching programme has been noted by a lot of my friends and colleagues. The sessions were very therapeutic, often great fun and always thought-provoking. They helped me to believe that I can achieve what I want to and that nothing is impossible if you want it badly enough. Thanks Kim!"
Mary E, Cardiff